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ANGELA'S ASHES

Angela's Ashes Term Paper
Both books that I've read, Angela's Ashes and The Color of Water both demonstrated
behavior than can be considered dysfunctional. A dysfunctional family is one that fails
to meet some or all the basic needs of its members. Sometimes these needs, such as food,
shelter or clothing are so basic that people take them for granted. More often, emotional
needs, such as the need for love, support and security go unmet.
Although a family can be dysfunctional in several ways there are some characteristics
that occur more often than others. Drugs, alcoholism, death, abandonment, starvation and
anxiety are some examples of dysfunctional characteristics that can be found in both
Angela's Ashes and The Color of Water. Just because a family is dysfunctional does not
mean it's members do not love each other. Dysfunction usually results from a large amount
of problems in the lives of the parents. Parents usually do the best that they can with
their children but the truth is that they're human too and can't always manage the
difficult task of parenting if they are overwhelmed by their own troubles. It could be
that their parenting skills have been impaired by mental or physical illness or simply by
ignorance. Also, many parents of dysfunctional families grew up in unhealthy or abusive
families themselves and don't know how to break the mold. It may be hard for a person in
a dysfunctional family to believe or understand it, but the truth is that poor parenting
is rarely intentional.
The result of dysfunction vary from the type of dysfunction the family endures. I've
heard of people becoming abusive, alcoholics, drug abusers, or runaways. Some people are
too weak to cope with the situations in their home, so they flee and start new lives
which usually end up becoming dysfunctional again. Dysfunction rubs off on children.
Because children are so vulnerable they look at their parents as role models. Children
usually end up having no sense of their own reality; therefor no sense of self. The
cannot deal properly with their own feelings because they have been taught to deny those
feelings. they can't value their needs realistically because their needs have always come
second to the needs of the family, which were to stop anything from changing in order to
ward off abandonment.
In The Color of Water the stepfather dies creating an unhealthy and new environment for
the family. As the mother is now forced to raise her twelve children alone, she is forced
to take on even more responsibility. Rachel Shilsky never before had a job. She was
struggling to make ends meet. Playing games with her children to determine who was going
to eat dinner and breakfast that day. The winners would eat and the losers would suffer
because the family was living in poverty, not to say that poverty is a dysfunction, but
the dysfunction develops as a reaction to the consequences that the family has to face.
Many wealthy people can become dysfunctional. Rachel places five children in two beds.
Most of the time the kids were so uncomfortable that they chose to rather sleep on the
cold cement floor of their Red Hook, Brooklyn housing project. The kids never realized
that they were living a different life than other kids until they are sent to school and
James, the youngest of twelve children asks his mother why she doesn't look like the
other children's mom's. Not only are they living in different atmospheres enduring
situations that most kids didn't have to endure, but their mother was white, the kids
were mixed and the people in their neighborhood were all black. Their family were
outcasts. James and his siblings learned to deal with the color of their skin, the death
of loved ones, the poverty and the fact that they didn't know where they came from. The
children often thought about where their mother was from. " We traded information on
Mommy the way people traded baseball cards at trade shows, offering bits and pieces of
information fraught with gossip, nonsense, wisdom and sometimes just plain foolishness".
"What does it matter to you anyway?" my older brother Richie scoffed when I asked him if
we had any grandparents, "You're adopted anyway." This shows how the children dealt with
realities that they had no control over. Another time the kids would joke around with
James telling him that Rachel wasn't his real mom, but his real mom was in jail. They
would tease him until he seriously began to think about it.
The only good thing that comes out of dysfunction is strength. Sometimes it takes years
of therapy to find the strength and self-individuality but most of the time people find
it. Other times people become empty and hopeless and look to substances, people or
behaviors to fill themselves up because they have not learned to fulfill themselves from
their own resources.
People who have lived in dysfunction often need help in finding out who they are,
separating from their families and learning how to love their lives, as themselves in
mature healthy and functional ways. This is a more positive outlook into leaving
dysfunctional ways. 
Angela's Ashes and The Color of Water are alike in many ways. Both stories contain
mothers who are loving, caring and would do close to anything for their children . Angela
goes as far as to begging for food and going to the St.Vincent DePaul Society for boots
for the children. Both families have to cope with the absence of paternal figures when
Malechy is constantly out to the pubs wasting the dole money that is supposed to be used
for food and rent to satisfy his own habits while Angela is at home struggling to make
ends meet without him. Malechy is not a proper father figure for his children. Rachel
Shilsky's first husband and second husband die leaving her to struggle to keep food on
the table. She even manages to send her children to summer camp. Rachel got her strength
from turning to god. She was a dedicated church goer. Both families deal with criticism
about their marriages. Frank's mother Angela was criticized by her two cousins, Philomena
and Delia (the big breasted one) for marrying Malechy who they didn't approve of because
he was a Orangeman, someone from the North and to add to that he had Presbyterian in him.
Rachel was constantly critiqued by her old family friends for marrying a black man twice
and raising her children Christian. In both books the children were one time embarrassed
by their mother's actions, in The Color of Water when Rachel would ride her little red
bicycle around the neighborhood being the only white person in miles, she was bound to be
a victim of robbery or possibly worse. In Angela's Ashes Frank becomes upset when his
mother has no choice but to beg for food, to him that is worse than his father wasting
the dole money.
Not all the people in the books are survivors of dysfunction. Being raised in Limerick,
Ireland is considered quite a"dysfunction" If we look back on it today. With the rainy
weather and the lack of medication and care, people died. Among those were Angela's
children, Margaret the little baby, the twins Eugene and Oliver. Frank prospered and
lives on today to tell his heartwrenching story of his hard times growing up in Limerick.
James McBride lives on today to speak of his new found identity and his emotional journey
through confusion. Both books help the reader to celebrate life and never take it for
granted. I highly recommend both books.
Bibliography
Angela's Ashes by Frank Mcourt
The Color Of Water by James Mcbride